20 Tips for Feeling Good About Your Age

  1. Knowing how one’s attitude colors everything from personality to longevity, it’s important to understand your own attitude about aging. If it’s negative, learn what you can do to change it.
  2. We go on diets, color our hair, and join Zumba classes. The result of this effort and expense is that we look better than ever, but beneath the surface, physical and emotional changes are taking place whether they are obvious or not.
  3. What happens to our bodies as we age is not necessarily a cheerful picture, but it’s a natural part of life; and in almost all cases, there are things we can do to ameliorate the changes.
  4. We are not machines, and while there’s no doubt that modern medicine can do wonders to slow down or even reverse the natural erosion of body parts, we play a role in preventing the predictable effects of aging.
  5. The big difference between humans and other species is that we have awareness of ourselves and our situations, choices about what to do to change what can be changed, and the ability to act.
  6. We are not omnipotent. We can’t change everything, such as our heredity, but neither are we helpless. There are many things we can do make aging more pleasant and even vibrant.
  7. According to Dan Buettner, author of is The Blue Zones, Second Edition: 9 Lessons for Living Longer From the People Who’ve Lived the Longest, “A healthy life is no accident. It begins with good genes, but it also depends on good habits.”
  8. Best-selling author Betty Friedan, in her 1993 book, The Fountain of Age, lamented that older women are becoming invisible in many settings, including executive positions in business, top roles in movies, and placement in magazine advertising.
  9. Is this how the world sees, or doesn’t see, “women of a certain age,” or is this the way we see ourselves? Buying in to this inaccurate, demeaning stereotype is a self-inflicted wound. It isn’t true, it isn’t healthy, and it certainly isn’t a way to age with grace.
  10. What is healthy is a more positive, yet realistic, self-image—a new perception of who we are, what we are capable of, and what we can contribute to society.
  11. It’s important to understand how the mind and body work together if you really want to change something as deeply ingrained as your view of yourself.
  12. The mind-body connection simply means that your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and attitudes can positively or negatively affect your biological functioning. In other words, your mind can affect how healthy your body is. That simple statement can change your life.
  13. Before you get busy doing things to slow down the aging process, begin by accepting the changes that are happening instead of trying to resist them.
  14. Getting old is inevitable. You can kick and scream and rail at fate, but this will change nothing except the state of your health.
  15. This is a choice—a choice you have the power to make. You can choose to be miserable about each passing year and physical change, or you can try to adapt to the natural flow of life.
  16. Once you accept that you are in a perfectly natural stage of life, the next step is to ask yourself what you need to be happy. There are plenty of things to do that will have a positive effect on your attitude about growing older, such as:
    • Exploring places in your city you have never been to
    • Revisiting abandoned activities and hobbies you used to enjoy
    • Starting a book club
    • Learning a new language
    • Taking a course in your local university’s lifelong-learning program
    • Volunteering at a hospital or for some organization you want to support
    • Joining a writing group and writing a memoir.
    • Becoming one of the 35 million Americans who do some form of meditation.

  17. The saying that no man is an island is true. You cannot lock yourself up in your house and become a recluse. You need people almost as much as you need air.
  18. You can’t choose your relatives, but you can choose your friends. So, do it. But choose them carefully because, over time, those friends can become the family you create.
  19. Humans were meant to move, no matter our age. As a matter of fact, the older we are, the more important it is to keep moving. Without a doubt, the one nonnegotiable item on your list should be physical exercise because exercise:
    • Reduces the brain fog that comes with age
    • Protects memory and thinking skills
    • Improves mood and sleep
    • Reduces stress
    • Helps relieve chronic pain from arthritis and low-back problems
    • Boosts your immune system
    • Improves your sleep
    • Helps reverse bone loss
    • Lowers your blood pressure
    • Enhances your balance
    • Strengthens your arms and back
    • Increases your self-confidence

  20. The feelings you’re grappling with are hardly unique. If you talk to your friends, you know this. As a matter of fact, talking to your friends is a wonderful way to cope with whatever is on your mind.

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